Mard Ko Mehendi Lagana Haram Hai
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم الصــلوة والسلام عليك يارسول الله Hadees-E-Mubarak Ka Mafhoom Hai Ke Hazrate Sayyeduna Abu Hurairah رضي الله تعالٰی عنه Se Rivayat Hai Ke Nabi-E-Kareem صلی اللہ تعالي علیہ والہ وسلم Ke Paas Ek Mukhannas (Hijda) Hazir Kiya Gaya Jis Ne Apney Haath Aur Paaon Mehendi Se Rangey Hue The. Nabi-E-Kareem صلی اللہ تعالي علیہ والہ وسلم Ne Irshad Farmaya :- Is Ka Kya Haal Hai ? (Yani Is Ne Kyun Mehendi Lagayi Hai?) Logo Ne Arz Ki :- Yeh Auraton Ki Naql Karta Hai. Madani Aaqa صلی اللہ تعالٰی علیہ والہ وسلم Ne Huqm Farmaya Ki ''Isey Sheher Badar Kar Do'' Lihaza Us Ko Sheher Badar Kar Diya Gaya. Madina-E-Munawwarah Se Nikal Kar ''Naqi' '' Ko Bhej Diya Gaya. Ref. (Sunan Abu Dawud : Hadees 4928 Book ref : 43, Hadees 156 Eng ref. : Book 42, Hadees 4910) Pyare Islami Bhaiyon! Dekha Aapne ? Mukhannas Ne Auraton Ki Naql Ki Yani Haath Paaon Me Mehendi Lagayi Toh Hamare Pyaare Aaqa صلی اللہ تعالٰی علیہ والہ وسلم Us Se Kis Qadar Naraz Hue Ki Usey Sheher Badar Kar Diya. Is Mubarak Hadees Se Hamare Woh Bhai Dars Hasil Karein Jo Shadi Ya Eidein Wagairah Ke Mauqey Par Apney Haathon Ya Ungliyon Par Mehendi Laga Liya Karte Hain. Aur Haan Jis Tarah Mardon Ko Auraton Ki Naql Jayez Nahi Usi Tarah Auratein Bhi Mardon Ki Naql Nahi Kar Sakti. Jaisa Ki Hazrate Sayyeduna Ibne Abbas رضي الله تعالٰی عنه Se Rivayat Hai Ke Nabi-E-Kareem صلی اللہ تعالي علیہ والہ وسلم Ne La'nat Farmayi Janana Mardon Par Jo Aurton Ki Surat Banaye Aur Mardani Aurton Par Jo Mardon Ki Surat Banaye. Ref. (Al Musnad Al Imam Ahmad bin Hanbal : Hadees 2263) Auraton Ko Haath Paaon Me Mehendi Lagana Jaiz Hai. Chotey Bachchon Ke Haath Paaon Me Mehendi Lagana Najayez Hai. Bachchiyon Ko Mehendi Laganey Me Harz Nahi. Ref. (Durre Mukhtar, Kitaab ul Libaas, Jild 9, Safha 599 Mulakkhasan Sunnatein Aur Adaab (Hindi) Maktabatul Madina-Hind, Safha 79-80) ALLAH ﻋﺰﻭﺟﻞ Aap Par Fazl farmaye !
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"Aur Musalman Aurato Ko Hukm Do Apni Nigahe Kuch Nichi Rakhe Aur Parsai Ki Hifazat Kare Aur Apna Banao Na Dikhaye Magar Jitna Khud Hi Jaahir Hai. Aur Dupatte Apne Girebano Par Dale Rahe Aur Apna Singaar Jaahir Na Kare Magar Apne Shauharo Par"
(Kanzul iman,Para 18,Surah Noor,Aayat 31) Is Aayat Ke Tehat Aurato Ko Apne Girebano Par Dupatte Dale Rehneka Huqm Hai Aur Apne Banav Wa Singaar Ko Apne Shauhar Ke Alawa Kisi Gair Mard Ke Samne Jaahir Karne Se Mana Farmaya Hai. Afsos ! Aaj Hamari Behene Tight Fitting Ke Kapde Pehen Rahi Hai, Net Ke Kapde Pehen Rahi Hai Jisme Saaf Unke Jism Ka Banav Dikhta Hai. Aise Kapde Pehenti Hai Jinse Mard Unki Taraf Mutawajjah Ho. Behsaq ! Behayaai Ka Dardnaak Azaab Hai. ALLAH Rabbul Aalameen Irshad Farmata Hai "Aye Nabi Apni Biwiyo Aur Sahabzadiyo Aur Musalman Ki Aurato Se Farmado Ki Apni Chadaro Ka Ek Hissa Apne Muh Par Dale Rahe. Yah Unke Nazdik Tar Hai Ki Unki Pehchan Ho To Sataayi Na Jaye. Aur ALLAH Bakshnewala Meherbaan Hai." (Sure Ahzab, Para 22, Aayat 59, Tarzuma: Kanzul Imaan) In Do Aayato Me Parda Kis Tarah Karna Hai Iska Huqm Hai. Jo Islami Behene Parda Karti Hai Beshaq ! Unke Liye Duniya Wa Aakhirat Me Bhalaayi Hai. Aur Jo Parda Nahi Kar Rahi Hai Wo Behene Gauro Fikr Kare Aur Amal Kare. Beshaq ! ALLAH Ta'ala Ko Hamare Tamaam Kaamo Ki Khabar Hai. Aur Aapke Aamal Ke Mutabiq Aapka Hamsafar (Shauhar) Hoga. Paak Daman Sutre Ladkiyo Ke Liye Paak Daman Ladke Aur Gandi Ladkiyo Ke Liye Gande Ladko Ki Jodiya Banayi Gayi Hai. ALLAH Rabbul Aalameen Irshad Farmata Hai "Gandiya, Gando Ke Liye Aur Gande, Gandiyo Ke Liye. Sutriya, Sutro Ke Liye Aur Sutre Sutriyo Ke Liye" (Kanzul Imaan, Para: 18, Surah Noor, Aayat No: 26) Is Aayat Se Hame Ye Malum Hota Hai Ke ALLAH Rabbul Aalameen Ne Apne Bande Aur Bandiyo Ke Jode Chun Rakhe Hai. Gande Badkar Mard Ke Liye Gandi Badkar Aurat Aur Gandi Badkar Aurat Ke Liye Ganda Badkar Mard. Aise Hi ALLAH Ta'ala Ne Saaf Sutre Paak Daman Ladka Aur Ladkiyo Ke Liye Sutri Paak Daman Ladki Aur Ladka Jodi Banayi Hai. Nikah Hone Se Pehle Ye Baat Likh Dena, Tum Apne Meher Me Meri Hayat Likh Dena. Dosto Ye Post Un Ladka Ladkiyo Ke Liye Hai Jo College Aur Shaadi Ke Pehlewali Life Me Bahut Sari Girlfrnds Aur Boyfriends Banate Hai Aur Apne Aapko Smart Samajhte Hai Ke Meri Itni Sari Girlfrnds Hai & Mere Itne Sare Boyfriends Hai, Ajeeb Daur Hai Log Gunah Par Bhi fakhar Karne Lage Hai. Aur Shaadi Ke Liye Ladki Ya Ladka Dekhenge To • KHUBSURAT • NEK • PADHI LIKHI • KHANDANI • UNCHE STATUS WALI • SHAREEF Aur Kuch Ka Ye Haal Hai Ke Shaadi Ke Baad Bhi Bahar Afairs Karte Hai. Astagfirullah Dosto Zara Sochiye Ek Ladki Apna Pura Khandan Apni Family Chor Kar Aapke Bharose Par Puri Zindagi Bitane Ke Liye Aapse NIKAH Kar Ke Aapke Ghar Aayi Hai Aur Aap Hi Uske Sath Aisa Karonge To Aap Uska Huq Maar Rahe Ho. Aur Ladkiya Bhi Aaj Ke Daur Me Shaadi Se Pehle Afairs Karti Hai Aur Boyfrnds Banati Hai Ye Sochti Hai Ke Unhe Koi Achche Ladke Ke Rishte Kyu Nahi Aa Rahe Hai. Familywale Bhi Pareshaan Ke Koi Achcha Rishta Aaye To Hum Beti Ki Shadi Krade Par Beti Jo Bahar Gunah Kar Rahi Hai Iski Fikar Maa Baap Ko Nahi Hoti. Us Gunah Ki Nausat Ki Wajha Se Usse Kaise Achche Rishte Aa Sakte Hai? Aaj Ke Daur Me Ladka Ladki Shaadi Se Pehle Wo Sab Kar Baithte Hai Jo Shadi Ke Baad Karna Chahiye Jise Shariate Islaam Me Sakht Gunah Bataya Gaya Hai. Aur Aise Zina Karnewalo Ke Liye Jahannam Ka Azaab Hai. Zina: Ek Mard Ek Aisi Aurat Se Humbistari/MubashratKare Jiska Uske Sath Nikah Na Hua Ho. Parayi Aurat Ko Chuna, Uska Bosa Lena Aur Use Dekhna Bhi Jina Ka Hissa Hai Zina Ko Islam Mein Ek Bahut Bada Gunah Maana Gaya Hai, Aur Islam Ne Aisa Karnewalo Ke Liye Duniya Mein Bhi Saza Takhi Hai Aur Marne Ke Baad ALLAH TA'ALA Iski Sakht Saza Dega. Zina Ke Bare Mein Kuch Hadees Aur Quran Ki Aayat Dekhiye Hazrat Abu Huraira Wa Ibne Abbas Radiallahu Anu Se Rivayat He Sakar-E-do Aalam Sallalahu Alayhi Wasallam Ne Farmaya "Momin Hote Hue To Koi Zina Kar Hi Nahi Sakta" (Bukhari Sharif, Jild:3, Safa:614, Hadees: 1714) Sarware Qaynaat Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam Ne Irshad Farmaya: "Shirk Ke Baad ALLAH TA'ALA Ke Nazdik Is Gunah Se Bada Koi Gunah Nahi Ke Ek Shaks Kisi Aurat Se Sohbat Kare Jo Uski Biwi Nahi Aur Jab Koi Mard Aur Aurat Zina Karta He To Imaan Unke Sine Se Nikal Kar Sar Par Saye Ki Tarah Thahar Jata He (Mukasheftul Kuloob Safa: 168) Hazrat Ikrema Ne Hazrat Abdullah ibne Abbas Radiallahu Anu Se Pucha Imaan Kis Tarah Nikal Jata Hai? Hazrat Abdullah Ibne Abbas Ne Farmaya Is Tarah ! Aur Apne Hath Ki Ungliya Dusre Hath Ki Ungliyo Me Dali Fir Nikal Li Aur Farmaya "Dekho Is Tarah" (Bukhari Sharif Jild:3, Safa: 614, Hadees: 1713) Zina Karnewale Shadi Shuda Ho To Khule Maidan Me Pattharo Se Mar Dala Jaye Aur Gair Shadi Shuda (Kuwara) Ho To 100 Kode Mare Jaye. (Bukhari Sharif Jild 3, Baab: 968/980, Hadees: 1715, Safa: 615/625) ALLAH TA'ALA Qur'an-E-Kareem Me Irshad Farmata Hai "Aur Wah Jo ALLAH Ke Sath Kisi Dusre Mabood Ko Nahi Pujte. Aur Us Jaan Ko Jiski ALLAH Ne Hurmat Rakhi. Nahaq Nahi Marte Badkari Nahi Karte Aur Jo Yah Kaam Kare Wah Saza Payega. Badhaya Jayega Us Par Azab Qyamat Ke Din. Aur Humesha Usme Zillat Se Rahega. Magar Jo Tauba Kare Aur Imaan Laye Aur Achcha Kaam Kare, To Aiso Ki Buraiyo Ko ALLAH Bhalaiyo Se Badal Dega. Aur ALLAH Bakshnewala Meherbaan Hai." (Sure Furkan, Para 19, Aayat 68-70, Tarzuma Kanzul Imaan) Zina Karnewalo Ko Asaam Me Dala Jayega. Asaam Ke Bare Me Ulma-E-Kiram Ne Kaha Hai Ki Wah Jahannam Ka Ek Gaar Hai. Jab Uska Muh Khola Jayega To Uski Badboo Se Tamaam Jahannami Chinkh Uthenge. (Mukasheftul Kuloob, Bab 22, Safa 167) ALLAH Rabbul Aalameen Qur'an Me Faramata Hai "Aur Aur Badkaari (Zina) Ke Paas Na Jaao, Beshak ! Wo Behayai Aur Buri Raah." (Sure Bani Israil, Para 15, Aayat-32, Tarzuma: Kanzul Imaan) Aaj Kal Dekhne Mein Aaya Hai Ki Is Gunah Mein Bahut Se Log Shaamil Hain, Chahe Ladka Ho Ya Ladki. Aur Phir Is Gunah Ko Karne Ke Baad Apne Dosto Ko Badi Shaan Se Sunate Hain, Balki Unko Bhi Aesa Karne Ki Raay Dete Hain. Dosto Agar Kuwara Aesa Kar Raha Hai To Jaldi Se Shaadi Kar Len Taaki Is Gunah Se Bach Jaaye. Aur Shadi Shuda Aesa Kar Rahe Hain To Chahe Wo Ek Nikah Aur Kar Len Lekin Is Gunah Se Bachen. Agar Koi Kuwara Ladka Ya Ladki Koi Galat Kaam Karta Hai To Iska Gunah Uske Maa-Baap Ko Bhi Milta Hai Kyonki Unhone Unki Jaldi Shaadi Nahi Ki Jiski Wajah Se Wo Galat Kaam Karne Lage. ALLAH Rabbul Aalameen Irshad Farmata Hai "Gandiya, Gando Ke Liye Aur Gande, Gandiyo Ke Liye. Sutriya, Sutro Ke Liye Aur Sutre Sutriyo Ke Liye" (Kanzul Imaan, Para: 18, Surah Noor, Aayat No: 26) Is Aayat Se Hame Ye Malum Hota Hai Ke ALLAH Rabbul Aalameen Ne Apne Bande Aur Bandiyo Ke Jode Chun Rakhe Hai. Gande Badkar Mard Ke Liye Gandi Badkar Aurat Aur Gandi Badkar Aurat Ke Liye Ganda Badkar Mard. Aise Hi ALLAH Ta'ala Ne Saaf Sutre Paak Daman Ladka Aur Ladkiyo Ke Liye Sutri Paak Daman Ladki Aur Ladka Jodi Banayi Hai. Beshaq ! ALLAH Apne Waade Ke Khilaf Nahi Farmata Insan Jo Bhi Galat Kaam Karta Hai Uski Keemat Uske Baccho, Maa Ya Bahan Ko Is Duniya Mein Hi Chukana Padti Hai Imam Shaafai Rehmatullah Alayhi Kehte Hain Ke: "Zina Ek Qarz Hai, Agar Tu Ye Qarz Lega To Tere Ghar Se Yaani Teri Behan, Bahu, Beti Se Wasul Kiya Jaayega"... Allahu Akbar Allah Hum Sabko Is Bade Gunah Se Bachaye. Aur Paaki Me Maut Nasib Farmaye. 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Aur musalman aurato ko hukm do apni nigahe kuch nichi rakhe aur Parsai ki hifazat kare aur apna banao na dikhaye magar jitna khd hi jahir he. Aur dupatte apne girebano par dale rahe aur apna singar jahir na kare magar apne shauharo par (Kanzul iman,Para 18,Surah Noor,Aayat 31) Sarkare Madina Sallalaho Alayhi Wasallam ne irshad farmaya Aurat,Aurat he yani chupane ki chiz he. Jab wo nikalti he to use shaitan zak kar dekhta he. Yani use dekhna shaitani kam he (Tirmizi sharif,Jild 1,Bab 796,Hadees 1173,Safa 600) Sarkare Madina Sallalaho Alayhi Wasallam ne irshad farmaya Jis gair aurat ko jan buz kar dekha jaye aur jo aurat apne ko jan buz kar gair mardo ko dikhlaye us mard aur aurat par Allah ki la'anat. (Mishkat sharif Jild 2,Hadees 2991,Safa 77) Hazrat Maimuna Bin Sa'ad radiallahu anha se riwayat he ke Sarkare Madina Sallalaho Alayhi Wasallam ne irshad farmaya Apne shauhar ke siwa dusro ke liye Jinat ke sath daman ghasite hue(itrakar) chalnewali Aurat Qayamat ke Andhero ki tarah he. Jisme koi roshni na ho (Tirmizi sharif Jild 1,Bab 791,Hadees 1166,Safa 597) Sarkare Madina Sallalaho Alayhi Wasallam ne irshad farmaya Jub mard gair aurat ko dekhta he ya aurat gair mard ko dekhti he to dono ki aankhe zina karti he. (Kashaful mahjub Safa 568) Sarkare Madina Sallalaho Alayhi Wasallam ne irshad farmaya Jab gair mard aur gair aurat tanhai me kisi jagah sath hote he to unme tisra shaitan hota he (Tirmizi sharif Jild 1,Bab 794,Hadees 1171,Safa 599) Sarkare Madina Sallalaho Alayhi Wasallam ne irshad farmaya Tanha gair aurat ke pas jane se parhez karo. Ek sahabi ne sawal kiya Ya Rasoolallah dewar ke bare me kya irshad he? Aaqa ne farmaya Dewar to Maut he. (Bukhari sharif Jild 3,Bab 141,Hadees 216,Safa 108,Tirmizi sharif Jild 1,Bab 794,Hadees 1171 Safa 599,Mishkat sharif Jild 2,Hadees 2968,Safa 73) ● Jo Apni Biwi Ke Sath Narmi, Khush Akhlaqi Aur Ache Bartaw Ke Sath Pesh Aaye
● Wo Apni Biwi Ke Huqooq Ada Karne Me Kisi Kism Ki Gaflat Wa Kotahi Na Kare ● Jo Apne Biwi Ka Is Kadar Ho Kar Rahe Ki Kisi Ajnabi Aurat Par Nigah Na Dale ● Jo Apne Biwi Ko Apne Aaram Me Barabar Ka Shariq Samjhe ● Jo Apni Biwi Par Julm Aur Kisi Bhi Prakar Ki Jyatdi Na Kare ● Jo Apni Biwi Ki Tund Mijaji Aur Bad Akhlaqi Par Sabr Kare ● Jo Apne Biwi Ki Khubiyo Par Nazar Rakhe Aur Uski Mamuli Galatiyo Ko Nazarandaz Kare ● Jo Apni Biwi Ki Musibato, Bimariyo, Ranj Wa Gam Me Timardari Aur Wafadari Ka Saboot De ● Jo Apne Biwi Ko Parde Me Rakh Kar izzat Wa Aabru Ki Hifazat Kare ● Jo Apni Biwi Ko Deendari Ki Taaqid Kare Aur Shariat Ki Rah Par Chalaye ● Jo Apni Biwi Aur Ahlo Ayal Ko Kamaa Kar Rizq-E-Halaal Khilaye ● Jo Apni Biwi Ke Maikawslo Aur Uski Seheliyo Ke Sath Acha Sulooq Kare ● Jo Apni Biwi Ko Zillat Wa Ruswaai Se Bachaye Rakhe ● Jo Apni Biwi Ke ikhrazat Me Bakhili Aur Kanjusi Na Kare ● Jo Apne Biwi Par Is Tarah Kabu Rakhe Ke Wah Kisi Bhi Burai Ki Taraf Rukh Na Kar Sake (insani Haq) ● Behtarin Biwi Wo Hai Jo Apne Shohar Ki Farmabardari Aur Khidmatguzari Ko Apna Farz Samjhe
● Jo Shohar Ke Tamaam Huqooq Ada Karne Me Kotahi Na Kare ● Jo Apne Shohar Ki Khubiyo Par Nazar Rakhe Aur Uske Aib Aur Khamiyo Ko Nazarandaz Karti Rahe Note: Khamiyo Se Murad Kamiya Hai Gunah Nahi. Agar Shaohar Gunah Karta Hai To Biwi Ko Use Rokna Farz Hai ● Jo Apne Shohar Se Uski Aamdani (Income) Se Jyada Ka Mutaalba (Mang) Na Kare Aur Jo Mil Jaye Us Par Sabr Aur ALLAH TA'ALA Ka Shukr Karne Ke Sath Zindagi Basar Kare ● Jo Khud Taklif Utha Kar Apne Shohar Ko Aaram Pohchane Ki Humesha Koshish Karti Rahe ● Jo Apne Shohar Ke Alawa Kisi Ajnabi Mard Par Nigah Na Dale Aur Na Kisi Ki Nigah Apne Upar Padne De ● Khud Parde Me Rahe Aur Apne Shohar Ke Izzat Ki Hifazat Kare ● Jo Shohar Ke Maal, Maqan Wa Samaan Aur Khud Apni Zaat Ko Shohar Ki Amaanat Samajh Kar Har Chiz Ki Hifazat Karti Rahe ● Jo Apne Shohar Ki Musibat Me Apni Jaan Wa Maal Kurbaani Ke Sath Apni Wafadari Ka Saboot De ● Jo Apne Shohar Ki Jyatdi Aur Julm Par Humesha Sabr Karti Rahe ● Jo Maika Aur Sasural Dono Gharo Me izzatwali Ho ● Jo Padosiyo Aur Milnejulnewali Aurato Ke Sath Ache Akhlaq Aur Sharafat Aur Mukhwat Ka Bartaw Kare Aur Sub Khubiyo Ki Tarif Kare ● Jo Mazhab Ki Paband Aur Deendar Aur Huquqoolla Aur Huqooqul ibaad Ko Ada Karti Ho ● Jo Sasuralwalo Ki Kadwi Kadwi Bate Bardasht Karti Ho ● Jo Sub Gharwalo Ko Khila Pika Kar Subse Aakhir Me Khud Khaye (Insani Haq) ALLAH TA'ALA Ne Jis Tarah Aurato Par Shohar Ke Huqooq Farz Kiye Hai Usi Tarah Shohar Par Bhi Aurato Ke Huqooq Farz Hai.
In Huqooq Ko Ada Na Karnewala Sakht Gunaahgar Hai ALLAH TA'ALA irshad Farmata Hai "Aur Unse (Aurato Se) Acha Bartaw Karo". (Tarzuma: Kanzul Imaan Para 4, Sure Nisa, Aayat 19) Sarkaar-E-Madina Sallallaho Alaihi Wasallam Ne Irshad Farmaya "Tum Me Ache Log Wah Hai Jo Aurato Ke Sath Achi Tarah Pesh Aaye". (Mishkat Sharif Part 2, Safa 282) Sarkar-E-Madina Sallallaho Alaihi Wasallam Ne Irsad Farmaya "Aurat Ko Kisi Bade Kasoor Ke Kabhi Hargiz Hargiz Na Mare Jis Tarah Apne Gulaam Ko Mara Karta Hai Fir Dusre Waqt Usse Sohbat Bhi Kare". (Mishkat Sharif Jild 2, Safa 280) Afsos! Aaj Ke Kuch Jahil Naujawan Apni Biwi Ko Marte Hai. Ya ALLAH Hum Subko Apni Biwi Ki Izzat Karne Ki Taufiq Ata Farma Aameen Awwal Aakhir Durood Habib-E-Khuda Sallallaho Alaihi Wasallam Ne Irshad Farmaya "Koi Momin Mard Kisi Momin Aurat Se Bugz Wa Nafrat Na Rakhe Kyunki Agar Aurat Ki Koi Aadat Buri Malum Hoti To Uski Koi Dusri Aadat Pasandida Bhi Hogi". (Mishkat Sharif Jild 2, Safa 280) Mehboob-E-Khuda Khatmunn Nabiyyin Sallallaho Alaihi Wasallam Ne Irshad Farmaya "Tum Me Woh Behtar Hai Jo Apni Biwi Ke Sath Behtar Hai Aur Me Apni Biwiyo Ke Sath Tum Subse Jyada Behtar Hu". (Ibne Maja Jild 1, Safa 551, Hadees No 2047, Tirmizi Sharif Jild 1, Safa 595) Apni Biwi Ke Sath Acha Sulooq Karo. Uske Sath Muhabbat Se Pesh Aao. Biwi Ke Sath Narmi Aur Khushmijaji Se Bartaw Karo. Apne Biwi Se Ladai Jhagda Na Karo Pyare Aaqa Alahissalam Ki Sunnato Par Amal Karo Madani Aaqa Sallallaho Alaihi Wasallam Ka Farmane Aalishan Hai Ki "Sabse Bura Aadmi Wah Hai Jo Apni Biwi Ko Sataye". (Tabrani Sharif) Pyare Islami Bahiyo Apni Biwi Par Julm Karna, Use Satana, Gaali Galoch Karna Bad Tarin Gunah Hai Hazrat Abu Huraira Radiallaho Ta'ala Anhu Se Riwayat Hai Ki Rasool-E-Akram Sallallaho Alaihi Wasallam Ne Irshad Farmaya "Jab Kisi Ke Nikah Me Do Biwiya Ho Aur Wo Ek Hi Ki Taraf Mayel Ho To Woh Qayamat Ke Din Jab Aayega To Uska Aadha Dhad Gira Hua Hoga". (Tirmizi Sharif Jild 1, Safa 584, Hadees No 1137, Ibne Maaja Jild 1, Safa 549) Habib-E-Khuda Sallallaho Alaihi Wasallam Ne Irshad Farmaya "Aurato Ke Sath Neki Ka Bartaw Karo Ki Unki Paidaish Tedhi Pasli Se Hui Hai Wah Tere Liye Kabhi Sidhi Nahi Ho Sakti Agar Tu Use Baratna Chahe To Har Haalat Me Barat Sakta Hai Aur Sidha Karna Chahega To Tod Dega Aur Todna Talaaq Dena Hai (Muslim Sharif) Hajjatul Wida Ke Mash'hur Khutbe Me Huzoor-E-Akram Sallallaho Alaihi Wasallam Ka Irshade Girami Hai Ki Aye Logo! "Aurato Ke Baare Me Neki Aur Bhalaai Karne Ki Wasiat Farmata Hu Tum Meri Wasiat Qubool Karo Beshaq Aurato Ka Tumhare Upar Haq Hai Tum Unke Pehnaane Aur Khilaane Me Neki Ikhtiyar Karo (Ibne Maja) Madani Aaqa Sallallaho Alaihi Wasallam Ne Irshad Farmaya "Nikah Ki Shart Yani Mehar Ada Karne Ka Sabse Jyada Khayal Rakho". (Bukhari Sharif Jild 3, Safa 80) Haq Mahar Ada Karna Shohar Par Wazib Hai Aur Ise Ada Karne Me Kotahi Karnewala Sakht Gunahgar Hai Ya ALLAH Hum Subko Apne Biwi Ka Haq Ada Karne Ki Taufiq Ata Farma Aur Biwi Ke Sath Muhabbat Se Zindagi Basar Karne Ki Taufiq Ata Farma Aameen ALLAH TA'ALA ne Shohar Ko Aurat Par Haaqim Banaya Hai
Aur Bahut Badi Bujurgi Di Hai Isliye Har Aurat Par Farz Hai Ki Wah Apne Shohar Ka Huqm Mane. Apne Shohar Ko Raazi Rakhna Biwi Ka Farz Hai Aur Jo Aisa Na Kare Wo Aurat Sakht Gunahgar Hai. Is Post Me Islam Me Shohar Ke Haq Ke Bare Me Hadees-E-Paak Pesh Kiye Hai. Ye Hadees Sharif Jyada Se Jyada Logo Tak Pohochaye. Sawab Haasil Kare. JazakALLAHU Khair. Sarkare Madina Sallallaho Alaihi Wasallam Ne Irshad Farmaya "Agar Khuda Ke Siwa Kisi Dusre Ke Liye Sajda Karne Ka Huqm Deta To, Me Aurato Ko Huqm Deta Ki Wah Apne Shoharo Ko Sajda Karti Rahe". (Mishkat Sharif Part 2 Safa 281 Mujtabaai) Madine Ke Tajdaar Janabe Muhammad Mustafa Sallallaho Alaihi Wasallam Ne Irshad Farmaya "Jab Shohar Apni Biwi Ko Apne Bistar Par Bulaye, Aur Aurat Aane Se Inkar Karde, Aur Uska Shohar Is Baat Se Naraz Ho Kar Sota Rahe, To Raat Bhar ALLAH Ke Farishte Us Aurat Par Laanat Karte Hai". (Mishkat Sharif Part 2 Safa 280) Sarware Qaynaat Madani Aaqa Sallallaho Alaihi Wasallam Ne Irshad Farmaya "Agar Shohar Apni Aurat (Biwi) Ko Yah Huqm De Ki Pile Rang Ka Pahad Kale Rang Ka Bana De Aur Kale Rang Ke Pahad Ko Safed Bana De To Bhi Aurat Ko Apne Shohar Ka Huqm Baja Lana Chahiye". Aur Aap Sallallaho Alaihi Wasallam Ne Farmaya Ki "Jis Aurat Ki Maut Aisi Haalat Me Aaye Ki Marte Waqt Uska Shohar Usse Khush Ho To Wo Aurat Jannat Me Jayegi". Aur Farmaya, "Jab Koi Mard Apni Aurat Ko Kisi Kaam Ke Liye Bulaye To Wo Aurat Agarche Chulhe Ke Pas Baithi Ho Usko Laazim Hai Ki Wah Uthkar Shohar Ke Pas Chali Jaye". Saware Qaynat, Habeebe Khuda, Shafi-E-Mehshar, Rehmatallil Aalamin Hazrat Muhammad Sallallaho Alaihi Wasallam Ne Sohbat Ke Liye Ye Dua Irshad Farmayi "Bismillah, Allahumma jannib nash Shaitana, wa Janni bish-Shaitana ma razaq tana" Tarzuma: "ALLAH ke naam se. Aye ALLAH door kar hamse shaitan mardud ko aur door kar shaitan mardud ko us Aulad se jo tu hame ata karega" "Jo shaks Is Dua Ko Sohbat Ke Waqt Padhega (Dua Wahi Jo Upar Likhi Hai) To ALLAH Us Padhnewale Ko Agar Aulad Ata Farmaye To Us Aulad Jo Shaitan Kabhi Bhi Nuksan Na Pahuncha Sakega" (Bukhari sharif Jild 3,Safa 85, Tirmizi sharif,Jild 1,Safa 557) Jab Aap Miya-Biwi Saath Mein Sone Ka Irada Karen To Usse Pahle Ye Dua Padh Lijiye. Yani Sohbat Karne Se Pehle Ye Dua Hamesha Padhe. Insha ALLAH Is Dua Ki Barkat Se Aapki Aulad Shaitan Se Mehfooz Hogi. Nikah Ke Talluk Sare Masle Aap Hamare "NIKAH" Page Par Padhe. Aur Apne Masle Comments Ya Contact Form Ke Jariye Likh Bheje. Is Hadees Sharif Ka Matlab Ye Hai Ki Aurat Chahe Kitne Bhi Jaruri Kam Me Mashgul Ho Shohar Ke Bulane Par Sab Kamo Ko Chod Kar Shohar Ki Khidmat Me Haazir Ho Jaye". (Mishkat Sharif Part 2 Safa 383 Mujtabaai) Biwi Ko Shohar Ka Huqm Har Hal Me Manna Hai. Aur Jis Aurat Ka Shohar Usse Razi Ho Aur Uska Intkal Ho Jaye To Uske Liye Jannat Hai. SubhanALLAH ! Khatmun Nabiyyin Huzoor-E-Akram Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam Ne Irshad Farmaya "Behtarin Aurat (Biwi) Wah Hai Ki Jab Uska Shohar Kisi Baat Ka Huqm De To Wo Uski Farmabardari Kare Aur Agar Shohar Uski Taraf Dekhe To Wah Apne Banav Singar Aur Apni Adaao Se Apne Shohar Ka Dil Khush Karde Aur Agar Shohar Kisi Baat Ki Kasam Kha Jaye To Wah Uski Kasam Ko Pura Karde Aur Agar Shohar Gayab Rahe (Matlab Ghar Se Bahar Ho) To Wah Apni Zaat Shohar Ke Maal Me Hifazat Aur Khair Kwahi Ka Kirdar Karti Rahe". (Mishkat Sharif Part 2 Safa 268 Mujtabaai) Apne Shohar Ko Khush Rakhna Hi Biwi Ka Farz Hai. Uska Singar Sirf Uske Shohar Ke Liye Hai. Shohar Ki Namaujudgi Me Uske Ghar Aur Maal Wa Dolat Ki Hifazt Karna Biwi Par Laazim Hai Ek Shaks Ne Aap Sallallaho Alaihi Wasallam Se Daryaft Kiya Ki "Behtarin Aurat (Biwi ) Ki Pehchan Kya Hai?" Madni Aaqa Sallallaho Alaihi Wasallam Ne irshad Farmaya "Jo Aurat Apne Shohar Ki Ita'at Wa Farma Bardari Kare". (Nasaai Sharif Jild 2 Safa 364) Hazrat Abu Sai'd RadiAllahu Anhu Se Riwayat Hai Shafi-E-Mehshar, Rehmat-E-Aalam Janabe Muhammad Mustafa Sallallaho Alaihi Wa Aalihi Wasallam Ka Farmane Aalishan Hai "Shohar Ki Na Shukri Karna Ek Tarah Ka Kufr Hai Aur Ek Kufr Dusre Se Kam Hota Hai". (Bukhari Sharif Jild 1, Bab No 21, Safa 109, Hadees No 28) Aurat Hargiz Apne Shohar Ki Nafarmani Na Kare Warna Jahannam Ki Tayyari Karle.. Ummulmomenin Hazrate Aayesha Siddiqa RadiALLAHU Ta'ala Anha Wa Hazrat Abu Huraira RadiALLAHU Ta'ala Anhu Se Riwayat Hai Ki Rasool-E-Khuda Sallallaho Alaihi Wasllam Ne Irshad Farmaya "Agar Me Kisi Ko Kisi Ke Liye Sajde Ka Huqm Deta To Aurato Ko Huqm Deta Ki Apne Shohar Ko Sajda Kare". (Tirmizi Sharif Jild 1, Bab No 788, Safa 594, Hadees No 1198) Hazrat Abu Huraira Radiallahu Ta'ala Anhu Se Riwayat Hai Ki Nabi-E-Kareem Sallallaho Alaihi Wasallam Ne irshad Farmaya "Shohar Apni Biwi Ko Jis Waqt Bister Par Bulaye Aur Wah Aane Se Mana Karde To Us Aurat Par Khuda Ke Farishte Subah Tak Laanat Karte Rehte Hai". (Bukhari Sharif Jild 3, Bab No 115, Safa 96, Hadees No 178) Hazrat Aayesha Siddiqa Radiallaho Ta'ala Anha Se Marvi Hai Ki Aap Sallallaho Alaihi Wasallam Ki Khidmat Me Ek Jawan Aurat Haazir Hui Aur Arz Kiya "Ya Rasoolallah! Me Jawan Aurat Hu Muze Nikah Ke Paigam Aate Hai Magar Me Shaadi Ko Bura Samajhti Hu. Aap Muze Bataiye Biwi Par Shohar Ka Kya Haq Hai"? Pyare Aaqa Sallallaho Alaihi Wasallam Ne Irshad Farmaya "Agar Shaohar Ki Choti Se Pair Ki Ediyo Tak Peep Ho Aur Wah Use Zaban Se Chate To Bhi Shaohar Ka Haq Ada Nahi Kar Payegi". Us Aurat Ne Pucha "To Main Shaadi Na Karu"? Ispar Aap Sallallaho Alaihi Wasallam Ne Irshad Farmaya "Tum Shaadi Karo Kyunki Isme Bhalaai Hai". (Mukasheftul Kuloob Bab No 95, Safa 617) ALLAHU AKBAR..! Hazrate Maimuna Radiallaho Ta'ala Anhu Se Riwayat Hai Ke Rasoolallah Sallallaho Alahi Wasallam Ne Irshad Farmaya "Meri Ummat Me Subse Behtar Wo Aurat Hai Jo Apne Shohar Ke Sath Acha Sulooq Karti Hai Aisi Aurat Ko 1000 Shahido Ka Sawab Milta Hai Jo Khuda Ki Rah Main Sabr Ke Liye Shahid Hue. Un Aurato Me Se Har Aurat Jannat Ki Hooro Par Aisi Fazilat Rakhti Hai Jaise Muhammad Sallallaho Alaihi Wasallam Ko Tum Me Se Adna Mard Par". (Gunyatuttalebin Safa 113) SubhanALLAH...! Hazrate Abdullah Ibne Abbas Radiallaho Ta'ala Anhu Se Riwayat Hai Ki Pyare Aaqa Sallallaho Alaihi Wasallam Ne Irshad Farmaya "Muze Dozakh (Jahannam) Dikhai Gayi Maine Waha Aurato Ko Jyada Paya Wajah Ye Hai Ki Ye Kufr Karti Hai". Sahab-E-Kiram Ne Arz Kiya "Kya Wo ALLAH Ke Sath Kufr Karti Hai"? Aap Sallallaho Alaihi Wasallam Ne Irsad Farmaya "Nahi! Wo Shohar Ki Nashukri Karti Hai (Jo Ke Ek Tarah Ka Kufr Hai) Aur Uska Ehsaan Nahi Manti. Agar Tu Kisi Aurat Se Umar Bhar Ehsaan Aur Neki Ka Sulooq Kare Lekin Ek Baat Bhi Khilafe Tabiyat Ho Jaye To Jhat Keh Dengi Ki Maine Tuzse Kabhi Aaram Aur Sukun Nahi Paya". (Bukhari Sharif Jild 1, Bab No 21, Safa 109, Hadees No 28) Sarkare Do Aalam Sallallaho Alaihi Wasallam Ka Farmane Aalishan Hai Ki "Jab Shohar Apni Haazat (Sohbat) Ke Liye Biwi Ko Bulaye To Biwi Agar Roti Paka Rahi Ho To Usko Laazim Hai Ke Sab Kaam Chod Kar Apne Shohar Ke Pas Haazir Ho Jaye". (Tirmizi Sharif Jild 1, Bab No 788, Safa 595, Hadees No 1159) Hazrat Umar Radiallaho Anhu Se Riwayat Hai Ki Madani Aaqa Sallallaho Alaihi Wasallam Ne Irshad Farmaya "Tumko Nahi Maalum, Aurat Ke Liye Shirk Ke Baad Sabse Bada Gunah Shohar Ki Nafarmani Hai". (Gunyatuttalebin Safa 114) Ya Rabbul Aalamin Tu Apne Karam Se Aurato Ko Nek Taufiq Ata Farma. Aur Unhe Apne Shaohar Ki Ita'at Karne Ki Taufiq Ata Farma Aameen Aurat ki jindagi ke raste me yun to bahut se mod ate hain magar iss ki jindagi ke char daur khas tor par kabile zikr hain.
1.AURAT KA BACHPAN Aurat bachpan me apne maa-baap ki pyari beti kahlati hai iss jamane me jab tak voh na balig bachchi rahti hai shariat ki taraf se na uss par koi chiz farz hoti hai na uss par kisi kism ki zimmedariyon ka koi bhoj hota hai voh shariat ki pabandiyon se bilkul azad rahti hai aur apne maa-baap ki payri aur ladli beti bani huyi khati piti,pahanti odti aur hasti khelti rahti hai aur voh iss bat ki hakdar ho ti hai maa-baap,bhai-bahan aur sab rishte nate vale uss se pyar va mohabbat karte rahe aur uss ki dil bastagi aur diljoyi me lage rahen aur uss ki sihhat va safayi aur uss ki afiyat aur bhalayi me har kism ki intihayi koshish karte rahe taki voh har kism ki fikro aur ranjo se farighul bal aur har vakht khush va khurram aur khushhal rahe jab voh kuch bolne lage to maa-baap par lazim hai ki uss ko allah va rasool Sallallau Alaihi O Sallam ka naam sunayen fir uss ko kalima vaghaira padayen jab voh kuch aur zaida samajdar ho jaye to uss ko safayi suthrayi ke dhang aur salikhe sikhayen uss ko nihayat pyar va mohabbat aur narmi ke saat insani sharafaton ki baten batayen aur achchi achchi baton ka shok aur buri baton se nafrat dilayen jab padne ke kabil ho jaye to saab se pahle uss ko quran sharif padayen.jab kuch aur zaida hoshiyar ho jaye to uss ko paki va napaki wazu va ghusul vaghaira ka islami tarika batayen aur har bat aur har kam me uss ko islami adab se agah karte rahen.jab voh saat baras ki ho jayen to uss ko namaz vaghaira jaruriyate deen ki baten talim karen aur parde me rahne ki adat sikhayen aur bartan dhone ,khane,pine,sine pirone aur chote mote gharelu kamon ka hunar batayen aur amali tor par uss se ye sab kaam lete rahe aur uss ki kahili aur be parvayi aur shararaton par rok tok karte rahe aur kharab auraton aur bad chalan gharano ke logon se mel-jhol par pabandi laga den aur un logon ki sohbat se bachte rahen ashikana ashar aur giton aur ashikhi ma'shuki ke mazamin ki kitaton se gane bajane aur khel tamashon se door rakhe taki bachcho ke akhlak va adat aur chal chalan kharab na ho jayen.jab tak bachchi balig na ho jaye in baton ka dhain rakhna har maa-baap ka islami farz hai.agar maa-baap apne in farayiz ko pura na karenge to voh sakht gunahgar honge. 2.AURAT JAB BALIG HO JAYEJab aurat balig ho gayi to allah va rasool Sallallau Alaihi O Sallam ki taraf se shariat ke tamam ahkam ki pabandi ho gayi.ab us par namaz,roza aur haj va zakat ke tama masayil par amal karna far ho gaya aur allah tala ke hukuk aur bandon ke hukuk ko ada karne ki voh jimmedar ho gayi ab uss par lazim hai ki voh khuda ke tamam farzon ko ada kare aur chote bade tamam gunahon se bachti rahe aur ye bhi uss ke liye zaruri hai ki apne maa-baap aur badon ki tazim va khidmat baja laye aur apne chote bhaiyon bahno aur duste azizon akarib se pyar va mohabbat kare.padosiyon aur rishte nate ke tamam choton,badon ke saat un ke maratib va darjat ke lihaza se nek suluk aur achcha bartab kare.achi achi adaten shikhe aur tamam kharab adaton ko chod de aur apni zindagi ko pure tor par islami dhanche me dal kar sachchi pakki pabande shariat aur imaan vali aurat ban jaye aur iss ke saat saat mehnat va mashakkat aur sabro riza ki adat dale mukhtasar ye ki shadi ke baad apne upar ane vali tamam gharelu jimmedariyon ki malumat hasil karti rahe ki shohar vali aurat ko kis tarha apne shohar ke saat nibah harna aur apna ghar sambhalna chahiye voh apni maa aur badi buddi auraton se puch puch kar iss ka dhang aur salikha sikhe aur apne rah-sahan aur chal-chalan ko iss tarha sudhare aur samvare ki na shariat me gunahgar tahare na baradri va samaj me koi iss ko tana mar sake. khane pine,pahanne od ne,sone jagne,bat chit gharaz har kam har bat me jahan tak ho sake khud taklif uthaye magar ghar valon ko aram va rahat pahunchaye.baghair maa-baap ki izzat ke na koi saman apne istimal me laye na kisi dusre ko de.na ghar ka ek paisa ya ek dana maa-baap ki ijazat ke baghair kharch kare.na bigahir maa-baap se puche kisi ke ghar ya idar udar jaye.gharaz har kam,har bat me maa ki ijazat aur rizamandi ko apne liye zaruri samajhe.khane,pine sine,pirone,apne badan,apne kapde aur makan va saman ki safayi garaz sab gharelu kam dhanton ka dhang sikh le aur iss ki amli adat dal le taki shadi ke baad apne sasural me neknami ke saat zindagi basar kar sake aur meke valon aur sasural valon ke dono ghar ki chahati aur pyari bani rahe.parda ka kahs tor par khayal aur dhain rakhe.gair mahram mardon aur ladkon ke samne ane jane, tak jhank aur hasi mazak se yitihayi parez rakhe.ashikhana ashAr,Akhlak ko kharab karne vali kitabon aur rasayil va akhbarat ko hargiz na dekhe bad kirdar aur be haya auraton se bhi parda kare aur hargiz kabhi in se mel jhol n rakhe khel tamasho se door rahe aur mazhabi kitaben khususan sirate mustafa va sirate rasoole Arabi,tamhide imaan aur milad sharif ki kitaben maslan "zinat ul milad" vaghaira ulmaye ahle sunnat ki tasnifat padti rahe. Farz ibadaton ke saat nafli ibadaten bhi karti rahe.maslan tilavate quran va tasbihe fatima milad sharif padti padti rahe aur gairvin sharif va barhavi sharif va moharram sharif vaghaira ki niyaz va fatiha bhi karti rahe ki in amal se dunya va akhirat ki be shumar barkaten hasil hoti hain.hargiz hargiz bad akhida logon ki bat na sune aur ahle sunnat va jamat ke akhayid va Aamal par nihayat mazbuti ke saat khayim rahe. 3.AURAT SHADI KE BAADNIKAH:- Jab ladki balig ho jaye to maa-baap par lazim hai ki jald az jald munasib rishta talash kar ke uss ki shadi kar den.rishte ki talash me khas tor se iss baat ka dhain rakhna behad zaruri hai ki hargiz hargiz kisi bad mazhab ke saat rishta na hone paye balki dindar aur pabande shariat aur mazhabe ahle sunnat ke paband ko apni rishtedari ke liye muntakhab karen.bukhari va muslim ki hadis me hai ki rasoollullah Sallallau Alaihi O Sallam ne farmaya ki aurat se shadi karne me char chizen dekhi jati hai.
Avlad ki tamanna aur apni zaat ko badkari se bachane ki niyat ke liye nikah karna sunnat hai aur bahut bade ajro savab ka kaam hai allah tala ne quran sharif me farmaya ki. "Yani tum log ve shohar vali auraton ka nikah kar do aur apne nek chalan gulamon aur londiyon ka bhi nikah kar do" Hadis sharif me hai ki torat sharif me likha hai ki ....."Jis shaks ki ladki baarha baras ki umr ko pahunch gayi aur uss ne uss ladki ka nikah nahi kiya aur voh ladki badkari ke gunah me pad gayi to iss ka gunah ladki vale ke saar par bhi hoga" Dusri hadis me hai ki Huzur Sallallahu Alaihi O Sallam ne farmaya ki:"Allah Tala ne tin shakson ki imdad apne zimmaye karam pa li hai.
Aurat,Jab tak uss ki shadi nahi hoti voh apne maa-baap ki beti kahlati hai magar shadi ho jane ke baad aurat apne shohar ki bivi ban jati hai aur Aab uss ke farayiz aur uss ki jimmedariyan pahle se bahut ziyada bad jati hai voh tamam hukuk va farayiz jo balig hone ke bad aurat par lazim ho jaye the Aab in ke ilava shohar ke hukuk ka bhi bahut bada bhoj aurat ke sar par Aa jata hai jis ka Ada karna har aurat ke liye bahut hi bada farayiz hai.yad rakho ki shohar ke hukuk ko agar aurat na Aada karegi to uss ki dunyavi jindagi tabaho barbad ho jayegi aur akhirat me voh dozakh ki badkati huyi Aag me jalti rahegi aur uss ki khabr me saamp bichchu uss ko dhanste rahenge aur dono jahan me zalilon khwar aur tarah tarha ke Azabon me giraftar rahegi.iss liye shariat ke hukum ke mutabik har aurat par farz hai ki voh apne shohar ke hukuk ko Aada karti rahe aur umr bhar apne shohar ki farma bardari va khidmat guzari karti rahe. SHOHAR KE HUKUK: Allah Tala ne shoharon ko biviyon par hakim banaya hai aur bahut badi buzurgi di hai iss liye har aurat par farz hai ki voh apne shohar ka hukm mane aur khushi khushi apne shohar ke har hukm ki tabe Adari karen kuin ki allah tala ne shohar ka bahut bada haq banaya hai yad rakho ki apne shohar ko razi va khush rakhna bahut badi ibadat hai aur shohar ko na khush aur naraz rakhna bahut bada gunah hai.Rasoollullah Sallallahu Alaihi O Sallam ne farmaya ki "Agar main khuda ke siva kisi dusre ke liye sajda karne ka hukm deta to main auraton ko hukm deta ki voh apne shoharon ko sajda kiya karen." Aur Rasoollullah Sallallahu Alaihi O Sallam ne yeh bhi farmaya hai ki"Jis aurat ki maut yesi halat me Aaye ki marte vakht uss ka shohar uss se khush ho voh aurat jannat me jayegi" Aur ye bhi farmaya ki "Jab koi mard apni bivi ko kisi kaam ke liye bulaya to voh aurat agarche chulhe ke pass baithi ho uss ko lazim hai ki voh ut kar shohar ke pass chali jaye" Hadis sharif ka matlab ye hai ki aurat chahe kitne bhi zaruri kaam me mashgul ho magar hohar ke bulane par saab kamon ko chod kar shohar ki khidmat me hazir ho jaye. Aur Rasoollullah Sallallau Alaihi O Sallam ne auraton ko yeh bhi hukm diya ki "agar shohar apni aurat ko ye hukm de ki pile rang ke pahad ho kale rang ka bana de aur kale rang ke pahad ko safed bana de to aurat ko apne shohar ka ye hukm bhi baja lana chahiye" Hadis ka matlab ye hai ki ki mushkilat se mushkil aur dushwar se dushwar kaam ka bhi agar shohar hukm de to jab bhi aurat ko shohar ki na farmani nahi karni chahiye balki uss ke har hukm ki farma bardari ke liye apni takat bhar kamar basta rahna chahiye aur rasoollullah Sallallau Alaihi O Sallam ka ye bhi farman hai ki "shohar bivi ko apne bichone par bulaye aur aurat ane se inkar kar de aur uss ka shohar iss bat se naraz o kar so rahe to raat bhar khuda ke farishte uss aurat par lanat kart rahte hain" Pyari bahno.in hadison se sabak milta hai ki shohar ka bahut bada haq hai aur har aurat par apne shohar ka haq ada karna farz hai shohar ke hukuk bahut zaida hai in me se niche likhe huve chand hukuk bahut zaida kabile lihaz hain.
SHOHAR KE SAAT JINDAGI BASAR KARNE KA TARIKHA:Yad rakho ki Miyan-Bivi ka rishta ek yesa mazbut talluk hai ki sari umr isi bandhan me raha kar zindagi basar karni hai.agar miyan-bivi me pura pura ittihad aur milap raha to iss se bad kar koi nemat nahi.aur agar khuda na kare miyan-bivi ke darmiyan ikhtilaf paida ho gaya aur jhagde takrar ki nobat Aa gayi to iss se bad kar koyi musibat nahi ki miyan-bivi dono ki jindagi jahannam ka namuna ban jati hai aur dono umr bhar ghutan aur jalan ki Aag me jalte rahte hain. Iss Jamane me miyan-bivi ke jhagdon ka fasad iss kadar zaiyda fail gaya hai ki hazaron mard aur hazaron auraten iss bala me giriftar hai aur musalmano ke hazaron ghar iss ikhtilaf ki Aag me jal rahe hain aur miyan-bivi dono apni zindagi se bezar ho kar din raat maut ki dua yen mang karte hain.iss liye ham munasib samaj te hai ki iss makam par chand yesi nasihaten likh den ki agar mard va aurat in par amal karne lage to allah azzawajal se ummid hai ki miyan-bivi ke jhagton se muslim muashra paak ho jayega aur musalmano ka har ghar amano sukun aur aram va rahat ki jannat ban jayega. 1.Har Aurat shohar ke ghar me khadam rakhte hi apne upar ye lazim kar le vo har vakht aur har hal me apne shohar ka dil apne hat me liye rahe aur uss ke isharon par chalti rahe agar shohar hukm de ki din bhar dhup me khadi raho ya raat bhar jagti huyi muje pankha jalti raho to aurat ke liye dunya va akhirat ki bhalayi isi me hai ki thodi taklif utha kar aur sabr kar ke iss hukm par bhi amal kare aur kisi vakht aur kisi hal me bhi shohar ke hukum ki na farmani na karen. 2.Har Aurat ko chahiye ki vo apne ahohar ke mizaj ko pahachan le aur baghair dekhti rahe ki uss ke shohar ko kai kai chizen aur kon kon si baten na pasand hain aur vo kin kin baton se khush hota hai aur kon kon si baton se naraz hota hai utne baitne,sone zagne,pahanne Odne aur bat-chit me uss ki adat aur uss ka zokh kai aur kaisa hai? khub achchi tarha shohar ka mizaj pahan lene ke baad aurat ko lazim hai ki vo har kaam shohar ke mizaj ke mutabik kare hargiz hargiz shohar ke mizaj ke khilaf na koi baat kare na koi kaam. 3.Aurat ko lazim hai ki shohar ko kabi jali kati baten na sunaye na kabhi uss ke samne gusse me chilla chilla kar bolne na uss ki baton ka kadva tikha javab de na kabhi uss ko tana mare na kosne de na uss ki layi huyi chijon me yeb nikale na shohar ke makan v saman vaghaira ko hakir bataye na shohar ke maa-baap ya uss ke khandan ya uss ki shaklo surat ke bare me koi yesi baat kahe jis se shohar ke dil ko thes lage aur khamaka uss ko sun kar bura lage iss khism ki baton se shohar ka dill dukh jata hai aur rafta rafta shohar ko bivi se nafrat hone lagti hai jis ka anjam jhagde ladayi ke siva kuch bhi nahi hota yahan tak ki miyan-bivi me zabardast bigad ho jata hai zis ka natija yeh hota hai ki ya to talakh ki nobat Aa jati hai ya bivi apne maike me baithe rahne par majbur ho jati hai aur apni bavajon ke tane sun sun kar kuft aur ghutan ki bhatti me jalti rahti hai aur maike aur susaral valon ke dono khandano me bhi isi tarha yikhtilaf ki Aag bhadak ut ti hai ki kabhi kort kachahri ki nobat Aa jati hai aur kabhi mar pit ho kar mukhadmat ka ek na khatm hone vala silsila shuru ho jata hai aur miyan-bivi ki zindagi jahannam ban jati hai aur dono khandan lad bhad kar tabaho barbad ho jate hain. 4.Aurat ko chahiye ki shohar ki amdani ki haisiyat se zaida kharch na mange balki jo kuch mile iss par sabro shukr ke saat apna ghar samaj kar hasin khushi ke saat zindagi basar kare agar koi zevar ya kapda ya saman pasand Aa jaye aur shohar ki mali halat yesi nahi hai ki voh iss ko laa sake to kabhi hargiz shohar se iss ki farmayish na kare aur apni pasnd ki chizen na milne par kabhi hargiz shikva shikayat na kare na gusse se muh fulaye na tana mare,na afsos zahir kare,balki behtarin tarikha yeh hai ki aurat shohar se kisi chiz ki farmayish hi na kare kuin ki barbar ki farmayisho se aurat ka vazan shohar ki nigah me ghat jata hai.han agar shohar khud puche ki main tumhare liye kai laun to aurat ko chahiye ki shohar ki mali haisiyat dekh kar apni pasand ki chiz talab kare aur jab shohar chiz laye to voh pasand aye ya na aye magar aurat ko hamesha yehi chahiye ki voh iss par khushi ka izhar kare .yesa karne se shohar ka dil bad jayega aur uss ka hosla buland ho jayega aur agar aurat ne shohar ki layi huyi chiz ko thukra diya aur uss me yeb nikala ya uss ko hakir samaj to iss se shohar ka dil tut jayega jis ka natija yeh hoga ki shohar ke dil me bivi ki taraf se nafrat paida ho jayegi aur Aage chal kar jhagde ladayi ka bazar garm ho jayega aur miyan-bivi ki shadmani va masarrat ki zindagi khak me mil jayegi. 5.Aurat par lazim hai ki apne shohar ki surat va sirat par na tana mare na kabhi shohar ki tahkir aur uss ki na shukri kar aur hargiz hargiz kabhi iss khisam ki jali kati boliyan na bole ki haya allah. main kabhi iss ghar me sukhi nahi rahi.hay hay mere to sari umr musibat hi me kati.iss ujde ghar me Aa kar main ne kai dekha?mere maa-baap ne mujhe baad me ghonk diya ki muje iss ghar me biyah diya muj nagodi ko iss ghar me kabhi aram nasib nahi huva.hay main kis fakkad aur dal dar se biyahi gayi.iss ghar to hamesha ullu hi bolta raha.iss khism ke tano aur koson se shohar ki dil shikni yani tor par hogi jo miyan-bivi ke nazuk talukat ki gardan par churi fer dene ke barabar hai zahir hai ki shohar iss khisam ke tano aur kosno ko suna suna kar aurat se bezar ho jayega aur mohabbat ki jagah nafrat va adavat ka ek yesa khatarnak tufan ut khada hoga ki miyan-bivi ke khush gavar tallukat ki nav dub jayegi jis par tamam umr pachtana padega magar afsos ki auraton ki yeh adat balki fitrat ban gayi hai ki voh shoharon ko tane aur kosne deti rahti hai aur apni dunya va akhirat ko tabaho barbad karti rahti hai.hadis sharif me hai ki rasoollullah Sallallau Alaihi O Sallm ne farmaya ki mai ne jahannam me auraton ko ba kasarat dekha.yeh sun kar shabaye kiram Alaihi Rizwan ne pucha ki ya rasoollullah Sallallau Alaihi O Sallm iss ki kai vajah hai ki auraten ba kasrat jahannam me nazar ayi.to Aap Sallallau Alaihi O Sallm ne farmaya ki auraton me do buri khaslaton ki vajah se.ek to ye ki auraten dusron par bahut zaida lan tan karti rahti hai dusri ye ki auraten apne shoharon ki na shukri karti rahti hai chunanche tum umr bhar in auraton ke saat achche se achcha suluk karte raho.lekin agar kabhi ek zara si kami tumhari taraf se dekh lengi to yehi kahengi ki main ne tum se koi bhalayi dekhi hi nahi. 6.Bivi ko lazim hai ki hamesha ut te bait te baat chit me har halat me shohar ke samne ba adab rahe aur uss ke yejaz va ikram ka khayal rakhe.shohar jab kabhi bhi bahar se ghar me aye to aurat ko chahiye ki saab kaam chad kar ut khadi ho aur shohar ki taraf mutvajjeh ho jaye uss ki mijaz fursi kare aur foran hi uss ke aram va rahat ka intizam kare aur uss ke saat diljoyi ki baten kare aur hargiz hargiz yesi koi bat na sunay na koi yes suval kare jis se shohar ka dil dukhe. 7.Agar shohar ko aurat ki kisi bat par gussa Aa jaye to aurat ko lazim hai ki uss vakht khamosh ho jaye aur uss vakht hargiz koi yesi bat na bole jis se shohar ka gussa aur ziyada bad jaye aur agar aurat ki taraf se koi kusur ho jaye aur shohar gusse me bhar kar aurat ko bura bhala kah de aur naraz ho jaye to aurat ko chahiye ki khud rut kar aur gala fula kar na bait jaye balki aurat ko lazim hai ki foran hi aziz aur khushmad kar ke shohar se muafi mange aur haat jod kar,paon pakad kar jis tarha voh mane use mana len.agar aurat ka koyi kusur na ho balki shohar hi ka kusur ho jab bhi aurat ko tan kar aur muh bigad kar bait nahi rahna chahiye balki shohar ke samne aziz va inkisari zahir kar ke shohar ko khush kar lena chahiye kuinki shohar ka haq bahut bada hai uss ka martaba bahut buland hai apne shohar se muafi talafi karne me aurat ki koi zillat nahi hai balki ye aurat ke liye yizzat aur fakhr ki baat hai ki vo muafi mang kar apne shohar ko razi kar le. 8.Aurat ko chahiye ki vo apne shohar se uss ki amdani aur kharch ka hisab na liya kare kuin ki shoharon ke kharch par auraton ke rok tok lagane se umuman shohar ko chid paida ho jati hai aur shoharon par ghairat suvar ho jati hai ki meri bivi muj par hukumat jatati hai aur meri amdani kharch ka muj se hisab talab karti hai iss chid ka anjam ye hota hai ki rafta rafta miyan-bivi ke dilon me ikhtilaf paida ho gaya karta hai isi tarha aurat ko chahiye ki apne shohar ke kahin ane jane par rok tok na kare na shohar ke chal chalan par shuba aur bad gumani kare ki iss se miyan-bivi ke tallukat me faida va kharabi paida ho jati hai aur khamakha shohar ke dil me nafrat paida ho jati hai. 9.Jab tak sas aur sasur zinda hain aurat ke liye zaruri hai ki in dono ki bhi tabedari aur khidmat guzari karti rahe aur jahan tak mumkin ho sake in dono ko razi aur khush rakhe.barna yad rakho.ki shohar in dono ka beta hai razi aur khush rakhe.varna yad rakho.ki shohar in dono ka beta hai agar in dono ne apne bete ko dant dapat kar champ chad di to yakhinan shohar aurat se naraz ho jayega aur miyan-bivi ke darmiyan bahami talukat tahas nahas ho jayenge isi tarha apne jeton,devaron aur nanand,bhavajon ke saat bhi khush akhlakhi barte aur in sabho ki diljoyi me lagi rahe aur kabhi hargiz hargiz in me se kisi ko naraz n kare.varna dhain rahe ki in logon se bigad ka natiza miyan-bivi ke tallukat ki kharabi ke siva kuch bhi nahi.aurat ko susaral me sas aur sasur se alag thalag rahne ki hargiz kabhi koshish nahi karni chahiye.balki mil zul kar rahne me hi bhalayi hai.kuinki sas aur sasur se bigad aur jhagde ki yehi jad hai aur ye khud sochne ki bat hai ki maa-baap ne ladke ko pala posa aur iss ummid par uss ki shadi ki,ki budape me ham ko bete aur uss ki dulhan se shara aur aram milega lekin dulhan ne ghar me khadam rakhte hi iss baat ki koshish shuru kar di ki beta apne maa-baap se alag thalag ho jaye to tum khud hi shocho ki dulhan ki iss harkat se maa-baap ko kis khadar gussa ayega aur kitni junjalahat paida hogi iss liye ghar me tarha tarha ki bad gumaniya aur khism khism ke fitna va fasad shuru ho jate hain yahan tak ki miyan-bivi ke dilon me fut paida ho jati hai aur jhagde takrar ki nobat Aa jati hai aur fir pure ghar valon ki zindagi talakh aur tallukat darham barham ho jate hain lihaza behtari isi me hai ki sas aur sasur ki zindagi bhar hargiz kabhi aurat ko alag rahne ka khayal bhi nahi karna chahiye han agar sas aur sasur khud hi apni khushi se bete ko apne se alag kar den to fir alag rahne me koi harz nahi.lekin alag rahne ki surat me bhi ulfat v mohabbat aur mail jhol rakhna intihayi zaruri hai taki har mushkil me pure kumbe ko ek dusre ki imdad ka sahara milta rahe aur ittifak va ittihad ke saat pure kumbe ki jindagi jannat ka numuna bani rahe. 10.Aurat ko agar sasural me koi taklif ho ya koi baat na gavar guzre to aurat ko lazim hai ki hargiz maike me Aa kar chugli na khaye kuin ki sasural ki choti choti si baton ki shikayat maike me Aa kar maa-baap se karni ye bahut kharab aur buri baat hai sasural balon ko aurat ki iss harkat se be had taklif pahunchti hai yahan tak ki dono gharon me bigaad aur ladayi jhagde shuru ho jate hain jis ka anjam ye hota hai ki aurat shohar ki nazaron me bhi kabile nafrat ho jati hai aur fir miyan-bivi ki zindagi ladayi jhagdon se jahannam ka namuna ban jati hai. 11.Aurat ko chahiye ki jahan tak ho sake apne badan aur kapdon ki safayi suthrayi ka khayal rakhe.meli kucheli aur fohda na ban rahe balki apne shohar ki marzi aur mijaz ke mutabik banav singhar bhi karti rahe.kam se kam haat paon me mehandi,kanghi choti,surme kajal vaghaira ka yehtimam karti rahe.bal bikhre aur maile kuchele chudel bani na fire ki aurat ka fohda pan Aam tor par shohar ki nafrat ka bayis huva karta hai khuda na kare ki shohar aurat ke fohda pan ki vajah se mutanaffar ho jaye aur dusri aurat ki taraf tak jhank shuru kar de to fir aurat ki zindagi tabaho barbad ho jayegi aur fir uss ko umr bhar rone dhone aur sar pitne ke siva koi chara nahi rah jayega. 12.Aurat ke liye baat bhi khas tor par kabile lihaza hai ki jab tak shohar aur sas aur sasur vaghaira na kha pi le khud na khaye balki saab ko khila pila kar khud saab se akhir me khaye.aurat ki iss ada se shohar aur uss ke saab ghar volon ke dil me aurat ki khadro manzilat aur mohabbat bad jayegi. 13.Aurat ko chahiye ki sasural me ja kar apne maike valon ki bahut zaida tarif aur badayi na bayan karti rahe kuinki iss se sasural valon ko ye khayal ho sakta hai ki hamari bahu ham logon ko be khadr samajti hai aur hamare ghar valon aur ghar ke mahol ki tohin karti hai iss liye sasural vale bhadak kar bahu ki be khadri aur uss se nafrat karne lagte hain. 14.Ghar ke andar sas,nananden ya jethani,devrani ya koi dusri auraten apas me chupke chupke baten kar rahi ho to aurat ko chahiye ki yese vakht me un ke karib na jayen aur na ye justaju kare ki voh apas me khi baten kar rahi hain aur bila vazah ye bad gumani bhi na karen ki kuch mere hi mutallik baten kar rahi hongi ki iss se khamaka dil me ek dusre ki taraf se kina paida ho jata hia jo bahut bada gunah hone ke saat saat bade bade fasad hone ka sabab ban jaya karta hai. 15.Aurat ko ye bhi chahiye ki susaral me agar sas ya nanandon ko koi kaam karte dekhe to jhat pat ut kar khud bhi kaam karne lage iss se sas nanandon ke dil me yeh asar paida hoga ki voh aurat ko apna ghamgusar aur rafike kaar balki apna madadgar samajne lagengi jis se khud ba khud sas nanandon ke dil me ek khas khisam ki mohabbat paida ho jayegi shususan sas,sasur aur nanandon ki bimari ke vakht aurat ko bad chad kar khidmat aur timar dari me hissa lena chahiye ki yesi baton se sas,sasur,nanandon balki shohar ke dil me aurat ki taraf se jazba e mohabbat paida ho jata hai aur aurat sare ghar ki nazaron me vafadar va khidmat guzar samjhi jane lagti hai aur aurat ki nek nami me char chand lag jate hain. 16.Aurat ke farayiz me ye bhi hai ki agar shohar gharib ho aur gharelu kaam kaj ke liye nokrani rakhne ki takat na ho to apne ghar ka gharelu kaam kaj khud kar liya kare iss me hargiz hargiz na aurat ki koi zillat hai na sharm.bukhari sharif ki bahut si rivayaton se pata chalta hai ki khud rasulullah Sallallau Alaihi O Sallam ki mukhaddas sahibzadi hazrate fatima Raziyallah Tala Anhu ka bhi yehi mamul tha ki vo apne ghar ka sara kaam kaj khud apne haton se kiya karti thi kuve se pani bhar kar aur apni mukhaddas pit par mashk laad kar pani laya karti thi khud hi chakki chala kar Aata bhi pis leti thi isi vajah se in ke mubarak hoton me kabhi kabhi chale pad jate the isi tarha amirul mominin hazrate abu bakkar siddiq Raziyallah Tala Aanhu ki sahib zadi hazrate asma Raziyallah Tala Aanhu ke mutallik bhi rivayat hai ki vo apne gharib shohar hazrate zuber Raziyallah Tala Aanhau ke yahan apne ghar ka sara kaam kaj apne haton se kar liya karti thi yahan tak ki unt ko khilane ke liye baghon me se khajuron ki gutliyan chun chun kar apne sar par lati thi aur ghode ke liye ghans-chara bhi lati thi aur ghode ki malish bhi karti thi. 17.Har Bivi ka ye bhi farz hai ki vo apne shohar ki amdani aur ghar ke akhrajat ko hamesha nazar ke samne rakhe ghar ka kharch iss tarha chalaye ki izzat va abru se zindagi basar hoti rahe.agar hohar ki amdani kaam ho to hargiz hargiz shohar par boj farmayisho ka bhoj na dale.iss liye ki agar aurat ne shohar ko mazbut kiya aur shohar ne bivi ki mohabbat me kharz ka bhoj apne saar par utha liya aur khuda na kare uss kharz ka Aada karna dushvar ho gaya to gharelu zindagi me pareshaniyon ka saman ho jayega aur miyan-bivi ki zindagi tang ho jayegi iss liye har aurat ko lazim hai ki sabro kanaat ke saat jo kuch bhi mile khuda ka shukr Aada kar aur shohar ki jitni amdani ho usi ke mutabik kharch kare aur ghar ke akhrajat ko hargiz hargiz amdani se bane na de. 18.Aurat ho lazim hai ki sasural me pahunch ne ke baat zid aur hatdharmi ki adat bilkul hi chod de.umuman auraton ki adat hoti hai ki jahan koi bat un ki marzi ke khilaf huyi foran gusse me Aag baghula ho kar ulat palat shuru kar deti hai ye bahut buri adat hai likin maike me chunki maa-baap apni beti ka naaz uthate hain iss liye maike me to zaida aur hatdharmi aur gussa vaghaira se aurat ko kuch zaida nuksan nahi pahunchta lekin sasural me maa-baap se nahi balki sas,sasur aur shohar se vasita padta hai in me se kon yesa hai jo aurat ke naz uthane ko tayyar hoga?iss liye sasural me aurat ki zid aur hatdharmi aur gussa aur chid-chida pan aurat ke liye be had nuksan ka sabab ban jata hai ki pure sasural vale aurat ki in kharab adaton ki vajah se bilkul hi bezar ho jate hain aur aurat saab ki nazron me zalilo khwar ho jati hai. 19.Umuman sasural ka mahol maike ke mahol se alag thalag hota hai aur sab naye naye logon se aurat ka basita padta hai iss liye saach pucho to sasural har aurat ke liye ek imtihan gaah hai jahan uss ki har harkat va sakanat par nazar rakhi jayegi aur uss ke har amal par tankhid ki jayegi.naya mahol hone ki vajah se sas aur nanandon se kabhi kabhi khayalat me takrav bhi hoga aur iss mokhe par baaz vakht sas aur nanandon ki taraf se jali kati aur tano kosno ki kadvi kadvi baten bhi sunni padegi yese mokon par sabr aur khamoshi aurat ki behtarin dhal hai aurat ko chahiye ki sas aur nanandon ko hamesha burayi ka badla bhalayi se deti rahe aur in ke tano kosno par sabr kar ke bilkul hi javab na de aur chup saad le ye behrarin tarikha amal hai yesa karte rahne se Insha allah ek din yesa ayega ki sas aur nanandon khud hi sharminda ho kar apni harkaton se baaz Aa jayegi. 20.Aurat ko sasural me khas tor par baat chit me iss chiz ka dhain rakna chahiye ki na to itni zaida baat chit kare jo sasural volon aur padosiyon ko na gavar guzre aur na itni kaam baat kare ki ninnat va khushamd ke baad bhi kuch na bole iss liye ki ye ghurur va ghamand ki alamat hai jo kuch bole soch samaj kar bole aur itni narm aur pyar bhare lahzon me baat kare ki kisi ko na gavar na guzare aur koi yesi bat na bole jis se kisi ke dil par bhi thes lage take aurat sasural valon aur rishte nate valon aur padosiyon saab ki nazaron me hardil aziz bani rahi. |
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